Matter of matrimony

You are expected to be SINGLE, when you can actually fall in love or date. That is during your college days. When you finally become comfortable with the idea of being single, boom! They pressurize you to get married. Then they'll ask you why didn't you find someone on your own? Duh!🤦 REMEMBER You were the ones who said when we were studying, "concentrate only on studies nothing else. Keep your distance from boys they aren't trustworthy." I mean come on. Now all of a sudden you are asking me to get closer to such a guy whom I have never met in my life and judge his character, whether he is suitable for me to spend the rest of my life with him, in just 2 or 3 meetings. I spent half of my life with you and I don't even know when your views will change. How do u expect me to trust the other guy?? 😁 What I find hilarious is When we were in college you were intolerant of me speaking about a guy, who is my friend ,for many years. You want me to be independent. You expect that I won't take his help even to drop me home from the station. That's is only 30 mins of sitting on his bike and now you want me to deliberately make me spend my life attached to some random guys wagon. Daddy your possessiveness is a strange one. You are cute though. You keep your daughter like a princess most of the years and when she has finally accepted that she is your princess you are planning to shove her away from your kingdom and fine she agrees (reluctantly) that she would go away, then you ask her "Hey there is a guy in another country are you willing to go there by any chance?" and when I say no you complain about that to whoever you see, meet or speak. Really dad? are you planning to send your only daughter to a different country where no one can meet whenever they fell so and to what use are you going to put to the 3 railway passes you get every year(my dad is in Indian railways he gets 3 yearly free passes to travel anywhere in India) Its easy to joke around about it but when you think practically on it then you understand the gravity of the situation. I am thinking from your side too.

 Indian parents literally bully you into getting married. You feel you are in limelight without the paparazzi following you around. When to go to a family function people literally scan you top to bottom. Normally you would slap such people, but now you have to fake smile all the time. At such times you can find solace with your siblings. But when you are a single child then... It's... Aaaaa torture..... Imagine you have never talked about relationships, crush or even liking a guy to your parents or any elders they start teasing you like they are your friends. Plus you know we get uncomfortable when this issue comes up and you say to people "waana see her change expressions real quick? Talk about marriage.🤦

  The pressure that the relatives put on you and moreover your parents is humongous. Suddenly everyone becomes marriage counselors and matchmakers. Especially the elders in the family become forced advisors to our well-oiled government. when, what where? "You go to my guy(pandit) for consultation he is the best." Suddenly there comes a list of good astrologers who are the BEST. We criticize superstition and we are the ones promoting it. It's a vicious cycle. Some guy says this stone would get success and good marriage for your kid. You would see my dad next day buying it. It's so wrong this industry, it uses emotional blackmail saying it's for the welfare of your child, which parent won't do best for their kids. Keep yourself in your parents shoes. It's difficult to judge your parents, on your well being. Relatives please Don't spread blind Faith. Again all of them are not the same. Some genuinely care for you. But at a certain age and stage of your life you end up blaming relatives. It's inevitable. Take the next lines in a jesting way. 

Imagine all the weddings you see around you. There are a special category onf people in this wedding. All they would do in the name of helping out is advice or rather criticize, tell you what is right or wrong, since they remember what they did in their marriages in the 60's (I am rolling my eye here🙄) All they remember is bits and pieces. Yet, they go to teach the council of priests who are sitting there and have been doing this for generations. They teach them right and wrong. Wow! Do u guys get the irony? Then there are 90% of the croud who goes to marriages just to eat food. It's like holiday for them. They diet days before the marriage only to gain some. Some people are EAT REPEATE COMPLAIN. The people who genuinely wanna help out in a wedding are the ones who didn't get to eat much in your wedding. Rest go to weddings for food. Mark my words. I do that too. 🤭